All of Me

The more you gain by pretending the more you lose in the end. Some people you believe are in your corner could also be plotting your demise like Jafar in Aladdin. Be cautious, careful, and courageous to make the right decision of what company you keep. As I reach the age of 26, I’ve found myself unpopular among my peers. Now mind you in high school, I was a member of the “B Clique” so I was fairly popular. However, I realized that popularity only takes you so far. The people who were truly in my corner were not the ones I thought would be. I see this played out all the time. I recently had this discussion with a close friend.

We agreed to disagree on the character of an individual. He says “she’s a Godly Black Queen.” I on the other said “she’s an evil b**ch.” Lol! Don’t act like you’ve never used that word. But I digress. I’m sorry, but when you mistreat people I love and care about I can’t support your political ploy to be seen as some kind individual. This little girl although she really is a grown woman is the type of person to throw rocks and hide her hands. I can’t respect that, but like I told my friend we can agree to disagree.

The disagreement didn’t discourage me. I’m not the kind of person to sway people to like others based on my own perception. I want those individuals to find out for themselves, and sometimes I pray that I’m wrong. I truly hope the person has a major transformation, but usually that doesn’t happen. Yet, it is quite frustrating when you bear witness to people you love be fooled, swirling around in the mud with swine. However, yeah I tend to use that word a lot “however.” But you all feel me I’m sure.

My mom dragged me to a wedding this weekend. One of her best childhood friend’s son got married. It was a beautiful wedding, but I constantly pondered drifted thoughts throughout the ceremony. As we made our way to the cocktail hour, I noticed how we put exterior masks over ourselves to hide our inner truth. Let me break it down for you. People are so afraid to show the world their true reflection because of fear that the world won’t accept them.

I think it’s the one thing that keeps us from living life to the fullest. We should be as free as a dancing queen twirling around on her wedding day.In other news, congratulations to the happy couple. I think love is a beautiful thing even though I’m so not ready to receive it. Yes, I said it. People constantly assume things about my sexual identity and partners. Guess what? It’s none of your damn business.

However, I tell folks who ask that I’m not mentally mature enough for a serious commitment. If I’m not where I need to be with self, I cannot bring another individual into the equation.

I think we as a society rush into marriage for different reasons. Some are seeking protection. Others are looking for status, and then there are those fanatical Christians who feel guilty about “doing it in the back” that they must take those vows so they can have guilt free sex. That last one cracks me up. Then there are those who are really ready to take that next step. That was definitely the case with Karlton and Norma. The two had a 10 year romance of ups and downs, but finally made it to the altar. It was such a beautiful experience watching this couple take their next step as husband and wife.

To all of my brothers and sisters especially millennials, don’t rush into a serious relationship. Make sure you are mentally and spiritually mature enough to receive whatever man or woman God has for you. Lastly, be sure not to swirl around in the mud with swine because you will return to your feet drenched in trash. Literally!

I’m out.

BOBBY